You started the relationship with joy. The butterflies were flying, prayers were loud, and everything felt like a dream come true.
But slowly, your devotion to God started fading. Your prayer life grew cold. The fire you once had started burning low, all because of love.
Get on the seat and let’s gist. Look, it’s easy to get so caught up in someone that you forget the One who gave them to you.
Dating was never supposed to pull you away from God; it’s supposed to pull you both closer to Him. Any relationship that weakens your spiritual life is not a blessing; it’s a distraction.
Romans 12:11 says, “Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord.” That means even while dating, your fire should still be burning. Your altar should still be alive.
If your relationship is costing you your connection with God, it’s too expensive. Love shouldn’t make you skip devotionals. It shouldn’t make you hide. It shouldn’t silence your convictions. True love doesn’t compete with God.
Don’t fall for the lie that says, “It’s just a season” or “It will get better.” Many have carried spiritual dryness into marriage because they never checked it during dating.
Pray together, yes. Also, pray alone.
Talk about your future, yes. Also, grow in your personal walk.
Love them deeply, but love God deeper.
You don’t have to choose between love and fire. You can have both when the relationship is built on the right foundation.
So, if you feel your fire slipping;
Pause
Reconnect
Return to your first love.
No matter how amazing they are, only God can satisfy your soul. You’re not just dating for fun, you’re dating for purpose, and purpose starts with staying connected to the One who holds it all together.
There are moments in one’s life where nothing is obviously wrong, but everything feels… off. You’re not making reckless choices; you’re showing up, doing your best, and staying faithful. Yet, somehow, beneath all that, something just feels unsettled.
One day you’re steady, the next you’re overwhelmed. Yesterday you felt confident in what God told you, today you’re second-guessing everything. It’s not that you don’t have faith—it’s just that things are shifting, and you notice it.
“I have set the Lord always before me. Because He is at my right hand, I will not be shaken.” – Psalm 16:8 (NIV)
The bible didn’t necessarily promise a quick fix. What it gives us is something solid to hold onto. David didn’t say, “I won’t be shaken because everything’s going my way.” He says, “I have set the Lord always before me.” That’s a deliberate choice, not just a passing feeling. He’s saying, “God, You’re my focus. You’re at the center.”
It’s not about pretending everything’s fine. It’s about not letting God fade into the background. Where you set your attention shapes the way you see and respond to everything else.
And don’t skip the second part of the verse: “Because He is at my right hand, I will not be shaken.” That right-hand place means God is close—He’s not distant or detached. He’s right beside you, present, ready to keep you steady when life feels off-balance.
That awareness changes everything. Instead of reacting to every emotion or thought, you can pause, reset and not because you have all the answers, but because you know who’s holding your hand.
So, what can you do when life feels a little unsteady?
1. Refocus your attention. Ask yourself honestly: “What have I been putting in front of me lately?” If it’s stress, pressure, or distractions, no wonder you feel unsteady. Look to Jesus—not just because it’s the “right thing to do,” but because it’s what truly works.
2. Slow your pace. We put so much pressure on ourselves to fix everything—fast. But often, feeling shaky comes from moving too quickly. Whether you’re making decisions or just trying to get through the week, pause. Invite God into the space your hurry wants to fill. Clarity usually comes in the quiet, not in the rush.
3. Go back to what God already told you. When life feels unsteady, it’s tempting to look for something new—a new word, a new sign. But revisit what God has already said. He doesn’t change His mind just because you’re having a rough week.
4. Let truth lead, not your emotions. It’s okay to feel deeply. But you don’t have to let feelings run your decisions. Let God’s truth guide you, even when your heart feels loud or uncertain.
Let this sink in: You’re not unstable—you’re just learning to stay grounded. God isn’t far away. He’s close enough to steady you. You don’t have to answer every doubt or fear. Just stay anchored to Him. If God is before you and beside you, you can never fall apart—even if life feels a little unsteady right now.
Loving God is the foundation of every meaningful relationship. Whether single, waiting, or married, the more you grow in loving God, the more you understand what it means to love someone else deeply and selflessly. God doesn’t just teach love—He is love.
5 truths with scripture about how loving God first can transform your relationship
1. God Teaches You to Forgive First
Loving God opens your heart to grace. You begin to forgive not because your spouse deserves it, but because God forgives you daily.
“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” — Ephesians 4:32
2. God Shows You Love is a Choice, Not Just a Feeling
Love isn’t always butterflies. It’s a commitment—a decision to stay, serve, and give even when it’s tough.
“Love is patient, love is kind… It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” — 1 Corinthians 13:4,7
3. God’s Love Deals with Self First
When you love God, He gently reveals what needs healing in you. You stop blaming and start growing.
“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?” — Matthew 7:3
4. God’s Voice Trains You to Listen Better
Loving God teaches you to slow down and truly listen—first to Him, then to others. This creates space for deeper intimacy in relationships.
“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” — James 1:19
5. God’s Presence Fills Your Loneliness
Single or married, moments of loneliness come. But God’s love fills every gap and teaches you to love from a place of wholeness.
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” — Psalm 34:18
Let God be your first love—and let that love transform how you see, choose, and care for your spouse or future spouse.
Loving God teaches you how to love, so pursue loving God, and your relationship and marriage will thrive.
In the vastness of life’s challenges, it can be easy to feel small and insignificant. The storms of uncertainty, pain, or fear may rage around us, threatening to overwhelm our faith. But in those moments, we must remember this profound truth: God stands on His throne—for you.
The Bible reminds us repeatedly of God’s sovereignty. Psalm 47:8 declares, “God reigns over the nations; God is seated on his holy throne.” This image of God seated on His throne isn’t just about authority—it’s about presence. It tells us that no matter how chaotic life becomes, God remains steadfast, watching over His creation with unwavering love and purpose. And when He rises from His throne? That’s when miracles happen.
Consider the story of Joshua at Jericho (Joshua 6). As the Israelites faced an impenetrable city wall, God gave them specific instructions: march around the walls for six days, then on the seventh day, shout as the priests blow their trumpets. When they obeyed, something extraordinary happened—the walls came tumbling down. Why? Because God acted on behalf of His people. At that moment, it was as if He stepped forward from His throne, saying, “I see your obedience, I hear your cries, and I will fight for you.”
God does the same for us today. When we face obstacles too big for us to overcome alone—whether it’s financial hardship, broken relationships, health struggles, or spiritual battles—we can trust that God sees us. He hears our prayers, and He is not idle. Just as He stood for Joshua and the Israelites, He will stand for you.
But here’s the key: we must position ourselves to receive His intervention. Like Joshua, we are called to act in faith, even when the way seems impossible. Faith doesn’t mean having all the answers; it means trusting that God is who He says He is—a loving Father who fights for His children. When we surrender our fears and step out in obedience, we make room for God to move powerfully in our lives.
So, take heart. No matter what you’re facing, God has not abandoned you. He stands on His throne, ready to rise up and work on your behalf. Trust Him. Follow His lead. And watch as He turns your impossibilities into testimonies of His grace and glory.
In every storm, declare this promise: “The Lord Almighty is with us; the God of Jacob is our fortress” (Psalm 46:7). For when God stands on His throne for you, nothing can stand against you.
Imagine you’re at a dinner table, having a deep and meaningful conversation with someone you love. The atmosphere is just right, the emotions are real, and everything feels perfect. But have you ever stopped to ask, Is God even invited to this table?
A lot of people trust God with their careers, finances, health, provision, etc but when it comes to relationships, they like to take matters into their own hands. They pray, “Lord, bless this relationship,” but deep down, they already know they didn’t ask Him before getting into it.
The first relationship in the Bible didn’t start with two people finding each other rather it started with one person walking with God. Before Adam ever met Eve, he had a personal relationship with God (Genesis 2:18-22). That means before you start thinking about who to date or marry, the real question is: Where does God stand in your life?
Not every relationship that feels right is from God. Samson thought Delilah was everything he wanted, but in the end, that love story cost him his strength, his vision, and his purpose (Judges 16). If emotions are leading you instead of God, you might be walking into something that looks good but is quietly pulling you away from Him.
Here’s a reality check: If you have to constantly justify red flags, hide certain things from people who care about you, or feel spiritually drained, that’s not God’s best for you. Relationships built on compromise never stand the test of time.
Ask yourself these questions: Did I really invite God into this relationship, or did I just hope He would go along with my choice? Is this relationship helping me grow in my faith, or is it quietly pulling me away? If I had to stand before God today, would I feel good about how I’ve handled this relationship? Your honest answers will tell you a lot. If you’re drifting further from God instead of getting closer to Him, maybe it’s time to pause, reevaluate, and let Him take the lead.
“Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with that person, and they with me.” — Revelation 3:20 (NIV)
At the end of the day, marriage is too important to get wrong. A relationship without God is like driving without direction, you might feel like you’re moving forward, but you have no idea where you’ll end up. Before you let someone sit at the table of your heart, make sure God is the One who set the table in the first place. If He’s not in it then it’s not worth it.
